Sex and Gender
What do you Love and Hate About being Female?
The cry of a baby, the laughter of a baby, the female is important to the society. The joy in the community, the provision of food to the hungry, that humane touch, attributed to the female. I like some things as being a female, but I don’t like certain things.
Thinks I Like
I like my body. The interesting female body including the features: hair, breasts, buttocks. I think of numerous things I can do with my hair, the clothing to fit into my body, and body image after putting on the cloth. I have numerous features compared to male, and I can use the body features to create a perception and control my environment. Female are seen weak but utilizing my skills and experiences on accomplishing tasks, the value of women in the community is changed. The physical features and the accessories send a clear statement of my expectations and role in the society.
Being a female, I may contribute in controlling the world population. The female has the potential of bearing life and giving birth to new life. I can carry a human in my womb, and I suckle the newborn, guide the newborn, and change the diapers with pleasure and with motherly love. The affection, providing the food, teaching the child to talk, giving that human value to the child, makes me feel an exception individual. Raising the future leader, a singer, a comedian, an instructor all begins in a woman. If all women in the world refuse to give birth, the egos of men are affected, and we can decide the future of the world.
Doing things by both female and male is mandatory for survival. However, the female touch is humanely, and I feel happy when I see a female touch on a final product. As a female, I can use emotions, feelings, words and actions in transforming a situation. Some male is seen as lacking that affection, passion, but the female can change the environment through creating a relaxing feeling, sympathizing and empathizing with the sick or persons with complications, I am able to create a physiology and socially conditions. I feel the respect and effects of female to the cultural setting. I am able to convince change of mind, after all, “behind any successful man, there is a woman.” I think the English nobles who coined this phrase understood that female touch and contribution to the success of humanity.
Things I don’t like
Being female means that our body keeps changing; from puberty to menopause, we women have to deal with different bodily changes including physical and hormonal changes: menopause, pregnancy changes and menstrual periods. These stages usually affect my weight, energy levels, skin, and health. The period in which females are shielded from these problems is below 12 years and above 60 years. Between these years (12 and 60 years), us female we have to deal with numerous bodily problems, which, sometimes, the society uses to gauge female participation.
Being a female also means that I have to maintain specific body image. People judge female more than how men are judged in the same situation or context. For example, female are required to remain more attractive throughout their live without considering the natural changes. Female are pressured to maintain maximum conditions in terms of beauty and are not permitted to be slobs. Female have to dress appropriately while at the same time, look attractive. For example, female are charged by the length of their skirts while the same judges, require women to be attractive. The judges see women in short skirts attractive while the same time critique and characterizes the female with biased moral standards.
The roles of female are seen as caretaker and “home maintainer.” It is seen alright for a male to work full time but inappropriate for female to emulate male. Even if the male is unavailable at home, the male is still seen as a good father without consideration of lack of attention or selfish attitudes to the family. Female working full time is perceived as selfish and are caring about themselves. The female are seen as not good because they work rather than taking care of the kids. To worsen the problem, the persons judging the female are still the female. The society expects female to take the first step in addressing a problem without considering the situation or context. Hence, female are viewed as caretakers and are not supposed to have dreams.
Female are not taken seriously and are expected to have a specific behavior. Female are seen as less qualified at the workplace compared to male. In engineering, for example, male are seen more effective compared with female; even though, the female was more successful than the male. It can be seen as gender discrimination, which is also common at the expected behavior at the workplace. For example, women are not required to be “firm, or mad” at the workplace. Names such as “bitches” are tagged onto female while the male is allowed to treat people like crap. Discrimination and lack of equality are common in workplaces, and personal behavior and actions can be attached to the actions of a female more than men.
In conclusion, the female is important to the society. The physical features, the emotional undertones, the perceptions, the beauty, the attractive and the accomplishments at the workplace, a female, plays an important role. The perception of female as caretakers, the requirement of attractiveness, the glass ceiling, and limitation when it comes to employment, the lack of seriousness when it comes to a female, are some things I hate. However, “every successful man, a woman is around” and by extension, “any successful society, female contributed immensely.”
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