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Love or intimacy is defined as someone`s strong feeling to another person that may result out of personal ties, blood relation (kinship), sexual desire, interests that are in common or even admiration. However love exists in many different types and with varying degrees. Love can exist in forms such as conjugal love, parental love, familiar love, even religious love or even love on animals such as pets. A person expresses varying degrees of love depending on the situation. A person cannot express same degree of love to a pet dog and a spouse. More love would be expressed to the spouse when compared to a pet dog. Technology can hence be defined as the aspect of knowledge that incorporates the birth-off and use of technical ways and their relationship with life, the surrounding environment, general public (society) that draws upon certain subjects such as engineering, applied and pure sciences and other forms of technological advancements to make life better in different ways.

Modern technological advancements have furthered the aspect of love to a new dimension. These advancements have enabled the exploration of virtual dating and some other kind of technology related treatments of romance such as the short messages (SMS) via cell phones, video chatting and more. These advancements have led us to undo the outdated held notions of intimacy and identity and adapt to the new arena technology. Heidegger, an established author, argues that these modern age technologies have been applied and the result is that the realm of the modern love has been bettered.

Intimacy or let’s say love, is getting mediated on by the ever growing and developing daily technologies which are the link between one agent (lover) to another. These two agents can even be several tens of thousands of kilometers away yet they interact like they were just few yards away. Video conferencing enables that. Young men and women of the generation are nowadays flirting on hand held devices (cell phones) like the smartphones, the tablets (mini computers). They use these devices to exchange short messages (SMS) like “I love you”, “hello dear” and even chat over the social networks such as Facebook, Twitter and so on. They therefore use these devices especially during the courtship period in their relationships.

Therefore the emergence of this new kind of sphere in the arena of technology has created or provided a virtual reservoir or platform for general collective actualization of interactive practices for the users who use and contribute to it. This new sphere takes the form of digital platforms, the online video games, websites, only mentioning a few, enables the linking of the concerned agents both locally and internationally. Love is therefore a technology of the community hence if to love is a sin, then living is a crime.

Internet service providers (ISPs) in the region of Pacific have noticed the trend in the popularity of the dating Sims, dating websites, dating applications and therefore they have allowed the internet users in the region to develop relationships with virtual lovers through an appropriate interface. It is therefore evident that love has been enhanced further by the technology. Members of the opposite sex can chat, exchange mails or even talk face to face through video conferencing interface. The Japanese newspaper, Daily Yomiuri, clearly states that at this modern age especially in the 21st century, many young people prefer to exchange emails and messages with virtual lovers via cell phones. This is because there exists privacy. Truly intimacy and technology are two inseparable aspects of love at this stage of modern love.

Various dating websites across the world have been set up to enable people date with less effort or acquire love hustle free. A dating site such as the eHarmony.com provides a chance for the concerned parties to date and search for matches of their categories up to twenty nine (29) dimensions of compatibility which means that the virtual lovers can get hooked up to persons or lovers of their dreams and hence accomplish their desires by just a few clicks of the mouse.

Several reasons have been put forward to back up the technological dating or love. These reasons are that technological love allows for exploration of different behavioral rhythms across the world, allows for the manipulation of several kinds of romantic and love interests, allows for escape from the restrictive conditions of the actual experiences and frees people from the ethical imperativeness in the societies they live in. It is therefore evident that the mysterious mechanics of love are therefore revealed through the implementation of technology.

To speak genuinely, the sole goal of the modern technology is to replace the tradition of the natural world (a world of great hardships, everyday heartbreaks and many more not mentioned) which unfavorable to our daily wishes with a world that is favorable to the wishes we desire in the right way, right time and with minimal effort.

Various theories of love have been used to explain the term love. The four major theories of love are; triangular love theory, compassionate vs. passionate love theory, loving vs. liking love theory and the colour wheel model of love. In this paper we are going to compare and contrast two theories of love that have been studied from week one to week six of the course unit and used to explain what actually love is. These two theories are the triangular love theory and the compassionate vs. passionate love theory.

Triangular love theory suggests that love is composed of three major elements, the intimacy, commitment and passion. Also, different combinations of these elements of love constitute different types of love. For example, a combination of passion and intimacy will result to passionate love. Several researchers, the likes of Social psychologist Zick Rubin,have stated that love built on more than two elements of love endures longer than love built on a single element of love.

The other theoretical approach towards explanation of love is the use and application of the compassionate vs. passionate love theory. This is a broad theory that consists of two types of love namely; the compassionate love and the passionate love. Compassionate love entails several characteristics which are the attachment, respect, trust and affection. Also passionate love comes in hand with its own individual characteristics; high levels of emotions; sexual attraction, anxiety and affection are the major characteristics to mention.

In this love theory, emotions are generally reciprocated and they eventually lead to the fulfillment of personal desires (love). When such emotions fail to reciprocate, then despair takes it default course. Passionate love has been found to last for short period of time and usually arise when the cultural expectations do encourage the act of falling in love. However it is the passionate love that progresses or leads to compassionate love which endures longer than the predecessor love.

These two theories that expound the real meaning of love contrast and compare in several ways. In the comparison case, the two theories of love agree that the passionate love is a combination of two elements of love which are the intimacy and the passion. Also they suggest that companionate love results from the combination of commitment and intimacy. Finally, the two theories propose that compassionate love endures longer than the passionate love which has been found in most cases to survive only in a period of six to thirty months.

Also to mention is that the two theories showcase contrast in their characteristics. Triangular theory of love takes into account only three elements of love, the intimacy, commitment and the passion. Compassionate vs. passionate love theory takes into account several other elements, the affection, trust, sexual attraction, intimacy, passion, commitment. This implies that the later theory expounds better the true meaning of love and hence the most appropriate theory to explain and classify different types of love.

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